Having authentic relationships requires a willingness to attain deep understanding of yourself and others....
Authentic people are aware of the full range of their abilities: they don’t apologize for their gifts nor hide their difficulties.
In authentic relationships you are able to deal with conflict and difficult situations by speaking with courage and compassion along with a willingness to listen in a way that the other feels heard.
The Enneagram (9-sided figure) has become one of today's most popular systems for developing a deeper and more expanded understanding of self and others.
"Determining our type through the Enneagram does not put us in a box, but instead helps us see the box from which we view the world, " says Dr. David Daniels, MD, Stanford University, author of The Essential Enneagram.
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Would you like to lessen the "angst" and complaints you have about yourself and others?
Would you like to be less reactive and develop your "wise self"?
Developing your “wise self” requires a more complete understanding of self and others.
With enhanced understanding, your accumulated wisdom may be shared withkindness and a sensitivity to and respect for the reality of the other…making you a person around whom others flourish. Deepen your understanding far beyond what you already know to be true about yourself.
Sign up for the Enneagram Cafe'and receive periodic "tidbits" of insight and information about each type; invitation to special events and classes; and opportunities to have conversations with people of your type and ALL types.
Click the drop-down menus and select your Enneagram type and subtype (if known).
Sign up for ENNEAGRAM CAFE' even if you don't know your type.You will receive invitations from time to time to participate in an introduction to the Wisdom of the Enneagram.
Platinum Rule: Do unto others as they would like you to do unto them. Consider adopting the Platinum Rule when you want to become more connected with the people in your life.
Most of the time, we try very hard to do unto others what we would want them to do unto us, aka theGolden Rule. But what if what they want is different from what you want -- or what you would want for them?
Wouldn't you love it if others applied this rule to you? It's not easy!
Adopting the platinum rule requires finding out what the other person would truly like or prefer -- as well as developing a deep and abiding understanding of the WHOLE of the person, in type as well as in essence. The Enneagram provides you with a system for gaining the information & insights needed to apply this rule to the people in your life.
In the Enneagram system, people are grouped based on core motivation--what is really important and what really matters to them. When you study your Enneagram type, you develop more clarity about yourself, what is important to you, what comes naturally, and what truly matters to you.
Here's our Golden Rule ..
When learning about others….ask questions and simply listen to the response, without judgment, debate, or presenting your own or an alternative perspective.
When listening…allow others time to reflect and speak for themselves & refrain from describing them or telling them about their type.
ABOUT SANDY Sandy Lundahl, MPH, MA, is a certified teacher of the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition. Sandy loves to teach and learn; she holds graduate degrees in public health and instructional systems design. Since 1983 she has taught classes in all aspects of holistic health. Her approach is to teach what truly makes a difference in people's lives...in a positive & encouraging manner.
Sandy recalls....Initially, my type (#7) was not obvious to me. As I continued to read and take classes, my self-awareness grew. Now I have a deeper understanding of myself, my strengths, core motivation, and where I get into trouble with myself and others. Taking on new practices, informed by the Enneagram, is helping me become less reactive , more successful with the people in my life, and to become a more whole and mature human being.
The study of the Enneagram is not a religion nor does it interfere with one’s religious orientation.It concerns itself with one element that is fundamental to all spiritual paths -- and that element is called self-awareness.
Sandy is a certified teacher of the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition
Sandy is a member of the International Enneagram Association